Barbie has been writing a lot recently about the dominant mothering ideology - Intensive Mothering. This tells us that “good” mothering involves three things: 1. Essentialism (no-one can do the job of mothering children as well as their mother) 2. Sacrifice on the part of the mother (always putting the child first) 3. Vocation (women are natural mothers and should be fulfilled by mothering) But how does this compare to your style of mothering?